High-Achieving and Professional Women
You’re a goal-setter… a planner… a go-getter…
You have big dreams and high standards for your performance.
You’ve worked hard to get where you are and sacrificed so much for your accomplishments.
Nothing feels as satisfying as personal and professional success and getting recognized for your achievements. It’s an adrenaline rush… and when you finally meet your goal, it feels AMAZING.
So, why don’t you have peace and contentment?
Why doesn’t the euphoria last?
Does success sometimes feel like a moving target?
There’s a dark side to achievement that nobody else sees.
Having to prove yourself over and over never ends. You wish you didn’t thrive off other people’s validation so much, but you can’t help it. And you’re TIRED of it… tired of trying to be smart enough, productive enough, accomplished enough… Let’s be real. Chasing your worth is painful, and the payoff is fleeting.
With all the pressure you’re putting on yourself, you often feel overwhelmed or crushed if you don’t meet your own standards or someone else’s. You tend to think in absolutes. Either you’re doing it ALL in, or you’ve done NOTHING.
As a high achiever, you can’t help but compare yourself to others. And when you perceive that you’re not measuring up, you can fall into a dark hole of shame. These feelings can weigh you down. You’re a natural sprinter, but some days you can’t seem to get past the starting line.
You have a reputation to uphold, and you don’t want to let anyone down, so you have difficulty saying “no,” or asking for help. You often feel responsible for others and put their needs before your own, feeling helpless when you can’t. It’s exhausting, but it’s also compelling because you feel valuable and worthy when you can help someone else.
And on the really dark days, you just feel like an imposter. “Don’t mess this up. People will find out you’re a fraud, and then they’ll think you’re worthless.”
This self-imposed expectation of perfection leads to procrastination because you’re afraid to fail. The longer you procrastinate, the heavier your chest and the worse you feel about yourself: “I should be able to handle this,” you say, piling on the guilt.
It’s dangerous to let achievement and affirmation define you.
Because they’re unreliable and transitory… so much of it is out of our control.
And when our worth is based on what’s out of our control, we’re powerless – constantly longing for more and always feeling like we’re not enough.
The result? We end up living in pools of guilt and inadequacy. The only escape is to achieve something amazing AGAIN, hustling for our worthiness.
Let’s turn this miserable cycle around!
I help high-achieving women heal from this cycle.
You see, there’s an easier way to have the peace you want. It’s not by looking outside yourself for happiness, fulfillment, and purpose. It’s by looking inside.
Expanding your identity…
There is so much more to you than how much you produce! You are a unique and incredible human being. Let’s explore who you really are… your values, beliefs, strengths, and opinions… what brings you the most passion, fulfillment, and joy. Let’s get clear about who you are beyond your achievements.
Accepting your authentic self…
Once you start to see yourself in new ways, the next step is acceptance. Rather than hide from yourself and live in shame, we’ll take bold steps to help you forgive, love, wholeheartedly accept, and even like your imperfect self.
Caring for yourself…
Being enough to all the people in your life by meeting their standards takes tremendous energy. When you let go of the people-pleasing, you’re left with so much more time and energy to truly care for yourself and the people who are important to you. You’ll learn how to manage your emotions with mindfulness, tolerate disappointment, challenge the negative self-talk, demonstrate self-compassion, connect with safe people, set boundaries, get in tune with your needs, play, rest, and trust your inner knowing.
Reach your highest potential and live a more meaningful life…
“What’s the greatest risk? Letting go of what people think or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am?”
– Brené Brown
You’re worth the risk! Let’s do this.
When you’re ready to take the next step, call me for a free 20-minute consultation, send me a message, or call me at (916) 705-2896.