Individual Therapy

The critical voice inside…

It loves to point out where you’re going wrong: shaming, invalidating, and criticizing. It meets you in front of the mirror, noting all your imperfections, and it keeps you up at night, listing all the ways you failed that day.

“If I’m hard on myself, I’ll do better and be a better person.”

This tactic isn’t really working, is it?

In fact, the louder your inner critic gets, the more exhausted and inadequate you feel… and the more you need someone or something to make you feel better again. This leads to chasing compliments, people-pleasing, over-indulgence in food, drink, exercise, or work… anything to make you feel adequate again. But the problem is, the more we look to outside sources to fill us, the less power we have over our own lives and the emptier we feel inside.

If we want to live without that nagging voice…

… telling us we’re not enough, we have to stop stuffing our feelings; we have to stop pretending everything is okay when it’s not. I know it’s scary to consider being authentic. You worry that people will leave you. You might be “too much” for someone, and then they’ll reject you. The truth is that there may have been people in your life who didn’t have the emotional maturity to know how to respond to your feelings appropriately. And that’s not your fault. The reality is, we can’t be everything for everyone without sacrificing ourselves.

When we pretend things are better or different than they really are, we never truly resolve our pain… and we continue living in this cycle of shame. Accepting our reality is the first step toward having the power to heal the painful parts of our lives.

The problem with running around busily every day…

… is that we lose the present moment.

And when we lose the present moment, we disconnect from ourselves and others. When we’re wrapped up in our thoughts and our shame, we miss the connections right before our eyes that could potentially bring us so much joy.

Over time, we can lose our sense of who we are and where we’re headed. Anxiety, depression, feelings of guilt and self-doubt, and problems in our relationships usually follow.

A courageous act of self-care…

That’s what I’m inviting you to do. That’s what individual therapy is: a pause from your busy life to focus on YOU and your healing.

One thing we’ll do is understand the story of your life – the lens through which you see the world. To heal, you’ll need to dedicate some time and focus to processing how you’ve arrived at this place in your life. I’ll help you tell your story and connect to the truth, and you’ll get perspective on that critical voice within.

As we work together, I’ll create a non-judgmental space where you’ll feel safe, known, and accepted. Within the context of our relationship, you can remove your mask and truly be yourself in a way that may have seemed impossible in other relationships.

Individual therapy will help you be aware of, engage with, and express your emotions and needs to truly connect with yourself and find wholeness.

A better life is right in front of you!

You can absolutely live a more fulfilling and authentic life – one where you get to be you without the anxiety and the critical voice nagging you all day long.

For a free 20-minute consultation, call (916) 705-2896 or email me at hello@fullcupwellness.com.